"I have no male friends." I can't count the number of times I've heard a man say that.
"Huh?" I always respond. How is it possible that men rarely if ever have male pals? And why are they always smiling when they proclaim this like it's a badge of honor? I stare wide eyed at the man who just proudly made the statement and think I would never admit it even under oath.
"How is that possible?" I always ask.
"I only have female friends." This is always the answer.
"Why, what's wrong with men?" Again always my next question.
"Well women are easier to talk to. I don't know. I just like being with women better."
"What's wrong with talking to other men?" What's wrong with this picture?
"What am I supposed to talk to them about?" Am I supposed to answer that? Do I look like a therapist?
I'm suspicious, very suspicious. Why can't they have the same conversation with a man that they have with a woman? Women want men to have friends of the same gender. I don't think men get this. Besides which, and here's where I'm sure I'll be tarred and feathered...are men capable of being a woman's friend void of any sexual motivation or desire? HA!
I say it's possible but not probable. I'll even go so far as to admit that my closest male friends and I have, "been there done that". We've been lovers and passed into the land of friends or at one time rejected the sexual possibility but liked each other's company enough to morph into buddies. Sex was a moot issue. I believe this the key to the male/female friendship.
On the flipside there are men who have so many male pals that women are always on the back burner. Been there done that also. In one case my boyfriend came over to happily announce he was planning a vacation to Las Vegas. I'm thinking "YES!" We had never been away together and what a great idea. I was psyched until he told me he was going with his best friend Jim. "Sounds like fun, and I never want to see you again," I said as I kicked his sorry ass out the door.
I'm ready, willing and prepared to hear from men on this subject. Give me your best shot. Women give me more ammo.