Boys and girls prepare for battle. My friend Jack says he's tired of women always going on and on about how they are better at living alone than men. "Blah, blah, blah, blah," is apparently all he hears when women start the "men can't live alone conversation." "I've heard it so many times it's taken on mythic proportions," he explained. I think I've made the statement myself I told him, because so many of the widowers or divorcees I've met are re-married in a nano-second. What's wrong with being without a partner for a day or two as long as you have food and water?
"Women always say they can be alone because they have friends to fill their lives. They think men don't and therefore are lonely," he continued. But hang on for his next claim and be ready to take up arms, "Men don't live alone because they don't have to. Most of the women I've dated wanted to live with me." HA! Pistols drawn I say we meet at high noon or the OK Coral. Are the numbers so disproportionate that a man can pick a partner off the "woman tree" out back? I know I can live alone, or almost alone because I've always had a dog. "Beefy Boy" is exceptional company and stares at me adoringly - especially when I'm eating. I also lived solo during my years with Thurber, my Doberman. He did tend to scare dates away but I said they weren't my type if they couldn't get past his grinning white teeth at the top of the stairs.
I think living alone is a blessing and a curse. I think living with someone is a blessing and a curse. Do men have a bigger dating pool from which to chose and can therefore decide in a nano second to no longer be alone? Should women stop stating so assuredly that "men can't live alone?" Shockingly, this Ms. Know-It-All doesn't know. Do you?
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It's that Mommy thing. Any man living alone is a magnet to some women. They are sure they could take care of him better than he can.
Or is it that "challenge" thing. Of course then we might be sorry we took up the challenge or the "mommy" role.
Men have no trouble finding someone to cook and clean and do laundry, so why not move one in. What's to lose? Do you know any men ready to take on that role? I have a long list of men that want me for their girlfriend but the list is blank for those that would even split the chores. I'd like a "wife", too, if I could just find a male version of one. -Kit
Take my dad, he will never be able to be alone. His reason "being single is being lonely and why be lonely in this world, you need someone to take care of you"
I was single for a few years and he was so stressed about my single status "Mijita, please find someone, even if you don't love them, someone HAS to take care of you, I don't want to die and know you are alone" My thoughts were "You (BEEEEEP)" but I was nice and said "Dad I don't need anyone to take care of me, I am not alone I have many friends and most important I like hanging out with little Ole ME!" His answer to that has always been "No mijita, everyone needs someone" WTF! I love him dearly but he doesn't know the difference between single and lonesome.
My Mother remained single after their divorce (over 35 years now)and doesn't need man. She is one of the strongest women I've ever met.
I have a male friend who has been married 8 times (I bet my paycheck it will happen again) He meets a woman, dates her for few months and pops the question, when I asked him why he does that and not just date and live together his answer is "Because I am a Christian" WHAT? I've been to 5 of his weddings and when the JP says "repeat after me "blah blah blah..Till death do us part" he repeats it with gusto. Christian way? REALLY? Holly hypocrite Batman!. Mind you, before he leaves the last wife he already has one lined up and they all look alike "I clean, I cook, I bring your beer while you watch the football game" That's bullshit! I introduced him to one of the top house cleaning ladies I know, she is a lesbian so I knew that marriage with him was never going to happen, he didn't want a "not live in maid" he wants a "Legal maid" a woman that will clean, shine his shoes, have sex with him when he wants.
I do agree with Renee. MOTHERS PLEASE DON'T SPOIL YOUR SONS, teach them that they need to survive on their own. PLEASE!!!
Now about women; some women need a man always. I know one that has dated so many men because she wants to meet her future husband but she doesn't settle for one, however a weekend with out a date is HORRIBLE for her.
Women were taught to take care of the dad, the brother and make their bed, wash dishes etc. So it can go either way, either that girl turns into the "husbands maid" or she decides she doesn't need a man just to have a man and fends for herself.
ANONYMNOUS honey, don't go for a wife babe, let me tell you, I know about having a wife, some women are a pain in the arse, worse than men and believe me, a lesbian has more balls than men and add to that PMS.
I VOTE FOR BEING SINGLE!!!! That's what's best. You meet people,have a great time, if you want sex you can make it happen, if you just want a glass of wine and dinner it's cool. Nothing like doing what you want, when you want and how you want it and if you don't want to do laundry on a weekend that's cool, if you don't want to take a shower on Sunday that's fine.
I can live without a life partner what I can't live with out is my friends, myself, the internet, wine, beer, my cat, Facebook, and my always "handy" friend.
Being single doesn't mean being alone in life, it just means that one is free to do what ever he/she wants.
I do believe that when it comes to men, they are "THE WEAKEST LINK GOODBYE"
Great comments from the women folk!
Glad you chimed in....keep them coming.
And to my cousin Viking Jen Jen: you continue to amaze me as a strong independent woman of substance!
Gail Do you like my new name? lets see if it changed.
Oh cousin Gail, thank you, love ya and we (the blue eye girls) in the family are way strong. You like my new name? hahahaha just or you darling.
I got engaged twice and lived with a third after my wife died 10 years ago. In all cases the best I got was for them to pick a chore or two to do and that was my help. The rest was done by a cleaning woman every other week and moi. All three cooked at one time in their lives but not for me so when we didn't eat out I cooked or each made their own meal.
Most of the conversation was good except for the arguments. Sex was like the Evasion Bird that flew in ever diminishing concentric circles until it flew up its own @$$.
Not sure why I got engaged. Guess I just assumed I would remarry someday, even though I didn't think much about it. Also not sure when this happened but one night while alone I was walking to the tv to watch a movie, with a meal I just made. The thought, "My word, this is peaceful. I love it." came to me.
That thought led me to realize I probably ruined relationships with women because at this age I didn't want to marry. I like women and consider a few to be good friends. Why screw that up? It's sort of a selfish existence but unless there is some strong force, better yet, "the Force" why marry?
So go to the OK Corral but if no one is there start without me. It's not about the mommy thing, or the numbers or which sex is more capable of living alone.
I know I can and don't care for the comment, "Men can't live alone."
Dr. Ruth formerly known as Viking Jen - I like the new name/moniker
The best way to appreciate living alone is to "invite" that "wonderful woman" you have gone on 3 dates with, to live with you. Guaranteed within 1 day to 2 weeks you will be longing for the solitude of "living alone".
DJ in PS
Wow I think Dennis hit the nail on the head...or found the perfect solution to avoid ever living with someone on a permanent basis.
Thanks for the answer.
My experience with men living alone is that they cannot even find where there the salt is. I'm sorry, but they can't seem to locate anything in a house - except the tv remote. That is why I worry about me dying before my husband. I am afraid someone will finally come into our house and find him muttering, "I don't know where she kept that. I should have paid more attention."
Uh Oh Donna, your husband is going to be in trouble. Maybe you should label everything for him or leave a map. I hope he can find the refrigerator so he wouldn't starve.
Hang on he needs you!
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